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We are talking about true love, not semblance of love. Semblance of love is a dime a dozen. False love is not true love.

So what do you do when you are faced with a situation in which you do not feel love welling up in your heart, when you may indeed feel something to the contrary. You do not have to feel love in order to be love. Beloveds, to not be love, you have to go far out of your way. To be love is your natural state.

I do not speak of simulation of love. I do not speak of pretense. I do speak of taking the high road.

If you are a teacher, and you do not feel love for a particular child, you can still be love for that child. What does this amount to but putting your temporary feelings aside for a moment?

Let Us say that your shoe has come untied. You may not feel like tying your shoe, yet you bend down and tie your shoe. You know how to tie a shoe. It needs to be tied, and so you tie your shoe. You are not being untrue to yourself by tying your shoe even when you don’t happen to feel thrilled to tie your shoe. You tie your shoe anyway. And so you love anyway.

You may not feel like doing the dishes, but you wash the dishes anyway. You can whistle while you work.

Even when love seems to have strayed from your heart, you can love. It is natural to love. It is unnatural not to love. Follow your nature, beloveds.

There is a map in your heart, and it points to love. Follow the map. It is well-marked. It is not hard to follow. You just have to remember the map. You just have to remember you have it.

When you are driving in a big city and do not know your way, you do not say, “I don’t feel like following the map.” You do not say, “I don’t want to stop to ask someone directions either.” What does what you feel like have to do with it?

At a moment when your heart feels out of love, remember what is natural for you to be, and then be it.

You may be walking along in the park, and you don’t feel like walking any more. In order to go somewhere, you have to walk. So you pick up your feet, and you walk. You are not stubborn about it.

Yet sometimes you do not feel like being a fount of love, and about this you are stubborn. You may say to yourself, “I must be true to myself, and right now I do not feel like being love. I must be forthright.” You may have the idea that, in your attempt to be honorable and only in your truth, you have to overlook your role in life, as if it were your decision to make to love or not love.

We are not talking about kowtowing. Does the sun kowtow when it shines on everyone everywhere?

Look, beloveds, bridge that gap between what you may feel at an isolated moment and what you are always.