Bullies…
A couple of days ago, I was walking my small dogs when one of them relieved herself between the sidewalk and the street – a strip of land that belongs to the county….not the homeowner, or in this case the renter of the house at that location. Unfortunately for me, it was the house with the bully. The same bully who came home one night, music blaring and drunk as usual, to cuss and yell at me that my dog was pooping in his yard. She was doing a wee wee… on the public strip. She is all of 7 pounds and she urinates a spot the size of a silver dollar exactly 3 times on a walk. But, in the dark of the night and in his alcohol (and God only knows what other substance) fogged mind, HE DECIDED that my dog pooped and therefore, he was judge and jury to condemn me with harsh words. Further, he informs me that if he EVER finds poop in his yard that he will put it in my mail box. To which I think….hurry up because I surely can’t wait to file federal charges against the bully. That was more than a year ago. I have rarely walked past his house since that night.
I’m not the only person he bullies. He is an indiscriminate bully. Anybody will do…actually…because it appears that he hates everyone. How sad it that?
I often wonder what makes a bully tick. I’ve wondered for a long, long time because I first became a victim of a bully when I was about 6 years old. A boy down the street would not let other kids walk on “his” sidewalk in front of his house. I was terrified of him, so I walked out into the street to get past his house, then back onto the sidewalk. I fixed my eyes straight ahead so that he wouldn’t have something to say about if I looked in his direction. I was timid and easily frightened. I was tense and my stomach was in knots. Not so much has changed. I still feel that way – the tension and the knotted stomach.
Very recently, I made a decision that I wasn’t going to be bullied ever again. And 2 days ago when the bully decided to bully me, I called him an asshole. Yep! And it felt great! And the next time he bullies me, I will call him an asshole again.
As I was picking up the poop from the strip of land between the sidewalk and the street, I spotted a HUGE poop right next to my little dog’s lady thumb sized poop. I informed him that I certainly wasn’t going to pick up poop from every dog in the neighborhood and that he needed to watch the street a little better. I was tempted to call him an asshole just one more time, but I restrained myself. I only fight back…I don’t bully.
I am waiting with anticipation to find poop in my mailbox. I can hardly wait to file federal charges. 👿
He sounds totally dreadful Darlene. Please be careful.
Yeah, be careful Darlene. This one sounds to me like a lot more than just a bully. He may be one of these. 😐
The fact that you restrained yourself, is a thing that must be appreciated.
That’s why we have discernment
I’m glad you stood up for yourself, maybe he will be stupid enough to put the poop in your mailbox.
he’s just a sad person that stepped in poop (his own included,metaphorically )probably too often , you’re too nice to let it ruin your day 🙂
You might want to install a security camera close enough to your mailbox so they can get video of him placing the poo in your mailbox.
If you don’t get it on video, its him vs you and I don’t think “fingerprinting the “poo” will help your case.
It would have been nice if you told him that he shouldn’t be mad at you OR your dog because your dog was just providing him more of what he needed: because he has “poo for brains”. (your dog was just trying to give him MORE of that.
Darlene! Good to see you blog here! 🙂
Do be careful with this guy, though it sounds as if you would have support on the fact that he is the neighborhood bully. It’s just too bad that he’s mad that the dogs in the area only want to help fertilize his yard… Maybe he should get into the tomato business or something?
Darlene, I think you are taking the correct approach. His bark is worse than his bite.
Also, he may not even realize how he sounds. I have been in homes where people talk to each other in such a manner.
But you should always be safety minded.
You are handling it right….but be sure to carry a long and very sharp pencil with you on your walks. They make a wonderful tool to even the score with someone bigger than yourself. I’ve taught 100 pound women how to keep a 300 pound man off of them with nothing more than a pencil. I’m hoping he puts the poop in the mailbox and someone sees him do it.
So, where do I poke him with this pencil? In the eye or lower?
A couple of years ago, a woman in her late 70’s was victim of attempted rape. The rapist was unable to complete his intentions because quick as a wink, she grabbed his manly parts, gave a vicious squeeze, then twisted her handful of junk. He was totally wrecked! Then I thought….I can do that… 😆 But, even so, your suggestion is a good one. I will do that as soon as you tell me where to poke him. I need to know how to use my weapon most effectively.
Thank you for your suggestion. I do appreciate it. :love:
I most certainly can see both sides . As I have had to deal with my neighbors lab coming over and pooping in my yard. Even though having 2.5 acres , this dog would poop right off the side walk where you would step in it , or right on the path to the mail box where you would step in it. It made me so angry , cleaning up poop , stepping in it. It was an everyday thing when these people have 2.5 acres that their own dog could poop on. I can only say that if you wish to not get yelled at every time , then don’t put yourself in the position to be bullied. Don’t walk your dog near their house. Then you can’t be blamed for any poop that finds it’s way on their lawn. There is only some much dog poop a person can take before they snap.
I can also see both sides when a large dog is obviously off leash and allowed to poop where ever they want. My dogs are 7 & 9 pounds. Their poop is very small and always only 1 turd the size of a lady’s thumb. I had already dragged them away from the mailbox area where people might walk getting their mail. I’m not inconsiderate. I was standing there with a plastic bag. Why did I deserve to be bullied? Maybe if I walked off and left it there like someone did with a dog the approximate size of a lab. There is a difference between someone acting responsibly and another person who opens their door to let their dog run free. On that point, I can understand your frustration. There are several people in my neighborhood who walk their dogs on a leash. One spot which seems to be a favored spot by many dogs is the corner of my yard across the sidewalk from my mailbox. I simply watch where I step. I don’t rage at the owners. And, I appreciate the fertilizer. 😆
I absolutely hate people like that Darlene. Some people just arent born with their heads screwed on correctly. He shoud be ashamed of himself. Maybe he has just got it in for you for some reason
Hi Darlene! Good to see ya blog, have missed ya. Be careful with this asshole, people are nuts these days! I hate to have neighbors like that, I have 1 neighbor that is very nice, we talk, go eat, shop, and help each other out, the others, meh, I just keep to myself. I live across the street from a 69 year old female drug dealer??? I took care of that with 1 phone call to the police though. Now, she usually stays with her daughter, good, no drugs in my hood!
Why do some people have to be such turds………… 🙄
One of my neighbours is a bully – once he had his fist in my face in a row over my tree. I had to run into the house and lock the door quick. He bullies his little boys too and the older boy bullies his little brother… 🙁
I will read and comment on this blog tomorrow. I just wanted to say hello and WELCOME BACK!!! 😀 :love: :love: :love:
Oh boy does this jerk need to be put in his place! I think you handled yourself PERFECTLY – you fought back enough to show him you wont be pushed around, yet not so much to provoke him. I think you should suggest to him that he gets a hobby…..like gardening, so he can make use of all the dog poop that he watches out for
Good to have you back Darlene. 😀 :love:
*2 Kudos*
There is nothing quite like a dude that has enough courage, honor, intestinal fortitude, and heroic valor to nobly risk his life and immortal soul… without being coerced or even politely asked, but on his own…. to show the world what he’s made of and serve as a shining example, by bullying women. Whether it’s in the neighborhood where you live, at the store, in traffic while driving, in school or at work…. or just as importantly here on the internets, it takes a noble, great, and mighty man to bully women. I especially like the type that will make a habit of periodically getting all nasty and psychotic with the ladies here on line… threatening to run them off the site and stuff. Without doubt, some of the finest examples of humanity to be found, anywhere. I appreciate your effort to take a few moments and give credit where it is due to these awesome people, Darlene.
There are too few with the inclination to recognize others for their efforts these days, it seems to me. Too bad… because recognition by your peers plays a pretty damn significant role sometimes in influencing a persons future actions. My attention whoring, for one example. And I think public recognition would also go a long way toward influencing future behavior in bullies too. 8)
😆 😆 😆 :groovy: 😆 😆 😆 OMG! I’m dying laughing here. Good one! I found a good video for them today…
Drat! How do I post a video here??? I’ll try again…