I Get By With a Little Help From My Friends
“I may never be good enough for someone, but I’ll be the BEST for those that deserve me.”
I’ve been a loner for many years now, but I wasn’t always this way. I was once I wide eyed innocent little girl who thought everyone wanted to be my friend as much as I wanted to be theirs. Of course I found out otherwise, which in turn is what made me become a loner. But over time, I learned to let my guard down enough to take the chance to let some people in because for as much as people can hurt you sometimes, it hurts just as much to be alone.
In some ways, deep down, I still am that wide eyed little girl who wants people to like me and be my friend as much as I want to be theirs and I still feel the pain that I did when I was a little girl when I discover this to not always be the case. But I am lucky enough to have a few special people in my life, a few true friends. However the road to finding them has been a long one and one I continue to travel as I always hope to meet new people and make new friends….REAL friends….along my journey. But sometimes the road has quite a few bumps in it. The saying “You need to kiss a few frogs before you find your Prince Charming” is true, even in regards to friendship. As much as it hurts, we sometimes need to have a few people who we thought was a friend turn out to be “a frog” and you know why? Because the lessons we learn from those people and our experiences with them make us appreciate our real friends more and teaches us how we can become a better friend ourselves. Overall, we become stronger and better people for it.
We learn what things hurt us the most that another person can do to us and hopefully makes us strong enough to not tolerate being treated like that again. It teaches us what we are willing to put up with and willing to sacrifice in order to please and have some people in our lives. It teaches us how to determine who is worth the effort and worth making these sacrifices for and who isn’t. It teaches us how it’s okay to finally just walk away if you need to once you realize that your “frog friend” isn’t treating you right or who you discover through their words and actions, isn’t someone you would want to be friends afterall, no matter how bad you might feel about doing it. Sometimes you can only do so much. Sometimes people either don’t realize a good thing when they have it or they just don’t care that they do. Some people are just so concerned and focused on themselves and their wants, needs, and problems that they don’t leave any room to care about yours. Sometimes people are just clueless and don’t realize that they should take a long hard look at there lives and the difference for the better your presence makes in it before they decide that your “friendship services” are no longer needed. Sometimes people don’t realize what they had until it’s gone.
It always hurts to lose someone you care about in any way, but there seems to be some kind of universal balance always at work. When you lose someone who doesn’t appreciate you or who quite frankly just doesn’t want to be in your life or have you in theirs, it makes room to allow people in who will appreciate you and be glad to call you a friend. You might want to call it life performing a spring cleaning of sorts as it removes certain people and things from our lives and in turn brings in new people and new experiences. We learn and grow from it all.
I do more than just “get by” with a little help from my friends….my true friends. I don’t know what I would do without them <3
Personally, I like being a loner.
howdy, my friend
When I first started going to school I got kissed by the boys and surrounded by the girls. I had so many friends I didn’t know what to think. I laid eyes on the cutest boy in the school and before I knew it we were boyfriend and girlfriend. That was 2nd grade. When we moved, I gave him my parakeets and promised to write. It was the last I heard from him because I never wrote and so he never got my new address.
In fact, that has been my downfall. I’ve neglected all my friends, until all I had left were a couple. I was too busy doing crazy things, like digging dens, training my bird to talk and my dog to climb trees. Of course, I finished my friendly career off by be-friending the girl with the skin problem and incurring the wrath and mockery of a whole thousand kid school. I decided then that books, artwork, animals and nature were where it was at.
In the end I realized that I wasn’t made for being popular. A few good friends were all I could handle. After that my charms went down the drain. Now it’s my husband and I (how in the world did I manage to get a husband…lol??), an occasional visit with the neighbor or one of the kids, and, well, now my internet friends who get a comment here and there from me.
If you need me, I’ll be around. But don’t plan on being doted over or chased by me. I’m out chasing cows instead….LOL!
From my perspective interaction is always a complex dance. Some people are easier than others. :love: Better a small handful of good souls around than an army of fair weather friends.
ugh….sux to read this after SO DAMN LONG …but I did anyway..so…dunno I guess I’m one of “those people”…you know eventually you turn out that way after taking mostly loads of shit from early times..you quit having expectations and dreams and then you test people and test them,and overtest them,until you wear them out…and still ..you don’t know when to stop from testing ,because you never knew it as it’s supposed to be.Fuckin fucked up.So it’s better to be a hoper..than a survivor.
I was always “that wide eyed little girl”. And still is and learn a lot of lessons.
And always I found it support from strangers, then from my family members.