{"id":28691,"date":"2011-04-07T12:56:05","date_gmt":"2011-04-07T16:56:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/28691\/10-virtually-instant-ways-improve-life\/"},"modified":"2011-04-07T12:56:05","modified_gmt":"2011-04-07T16:56:05","slug":"10-virtually-instant-ways-improve-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/28691\/10-virtually-instant-ways-improve-life\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Virtually Instant Ways to Improve Your Life"},"content":{"rendered":"

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10 Virtually Instant Ways to Improve Your Life<\/span><\/strong>
\nby Adrian Savage<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Many of our problems come from within our own minds. They aren\u2019t caused by events, bad luck, or other people. We cause them through our own poor mental habits. Here are 10 habits you should set aside right away to free yourself from the many problems each one will be causing you.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Stop jumping to conclusions.<\/strong> There are two common ways this habit increases people\u2019s difficulties. First, they assume that they know what is going to happen, so they stop paying attention and act on their assumption instead. Human beings are lousy fortune-tellers. Most of what they assume is wrong. That makes the action wrong too. The second aspect of this habit is playing the mind-reader and assuming you know why people do what they do or what they\u2019re thinking. Wrong again, big time. More relationships are destroyed by this particular kind of stupidity than by any other.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

2. Don\u2019t dramatize.<\/strong> Lots of people inflate small setbacks into life-threatening catastrophes and react accordingly. This habit makes mountains out of molehills and gives people anxieties that either don\u2019t exist or are so insignificant they aren\u2019t worth worrying about anyway. Why do they do it? Who knows? Maybe to make themselves feel and seem more important. Whatever the reason, it\u2019s silly as well as destructive.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

3. Don\u2019t invent rules.<\/strong> A huge proportion of those \u201coughts\u201d and \u201cshoulds\u201d that you carry around are most likely needless. All that they do for you is make you feel nervous or guilty. What\u2019s the point? When you use these imaginary rules on yourself, you clog your mind with petty restrictions and childish orders. And when you try to impose them on others, you make yourself into a bully, a boring nag, or a self-righteous bigot.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

4. Avoid stereotyping or labeling people or situations.<\/strong> The words you use can trip you up. Negative and critical language produces the same flavor of thinking. Forcing things into pre-set categories hides their real meaning and limits your thinking to no purpose. See what\u2019s there. Don\u2019t label. You\u2019ll be surprised at what you find.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

5. Quit being a perfectionist.<\/strong> Life isn\u2019t all or nothing, black or white. Many times, good enough means exactly what it says. Search for the perfect job and you\u2019ll likely never find it. Meanwhile, all the others will look worse than they are. Try for the perfect relationship and you\u2019ll probably spend your life alone. Perfectionism is a mental sickness that will destroy all your pleasure and send you in search of what can never be attained.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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6. Don\u2019t over-generalize.<\/span><\/strong> One or two setbacks are not a sign of permanent failure. The odd triumph doesn\u2019t turn you into a genius. A single event\u2014good or bad\u2014or even two or three don\u2019t always point to a lasting trend. Usually things are just what they are, nothing more.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

7. Don\u2019t take things so personally.<\/strong> Most people, even your friends and colleagues, aren\u2019t talking about you, thinking about you, or concerned with you at all for 99% of the time. The majority of folk in your organization or neighborhood have probably never heard of you and don\u2019t especially want to. The ups and downs of life, the warmth and coldness of others, aren\u2019t personal at all. Pretending that they are will only make you more miserable than is needed.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

8. Don\u2019t assume your emotions are trustworthy.<\/strong> How you feel isn\u2019t always a good indicator of how things are. Just because you feel it, that doesn\u2019t make it true. Sometimes that emotion comes from nothing more profound than being tired, hungry, annoyed, or about to get a head-cold. The future won\u2019t change because you feel bad\u2014nor because you feel great. Feelings may be true, but they aren\u2019t the truth.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

9. Don\u2019t let life get you down.<\/strong> Keep practicing being optimistic. If you expect bad things in your life and work, you\u2019ll always find them. A negative mind-set is like looking at the world through distorting, grimy lenses. You spot every blemish and overlook or discount everything else. It\u2019s amazing what isn\u2019t there until you start to look for it. Of course, if you decide to look for signs of positive things, you\u2019ll find those too.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

10. Don\u2019t hang on to the past.<\/strong> This is my most important suggestion of all: let go and move on. Most of the anger, frustration, misery, and despair in this world come from people clinging to past hurts and problems. The more you turn them over in your mind, the worse you\u2019ll feel and the bigger they\u2019ll look. Don\u2019t try to fight misery. Let go and move on. Do that and you\u2019ve removed just about all its power to hurt you.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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