{"id":33506,"date":"2011-04-29T21:23:11","date_gmt":"2011-04-30T01:23:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/33506\/kind-3\/"},"modified":"2011-04-29T21:23:11","modified_gmt":"2011-04-30T01:23:11","slug":"kind-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/33506\/kind-3\/","title":{"rendered":"Be Right or Be Kind?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Be Right or Be Kind?<\/strong><\/span>
\nby Dr. Wayne W. Dyer<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

The 79th verse of the Tao Te Ching, which has been especially helpful to me personally, can be called \u201cLiving Without Resentment.\u201d We\u2019re asked to change the way we hold resentments following a difference of opinion or an outright quarrel. Now what causes annoyance and anger after a dispute? The generic response would be a laundry list that detailed why the other person was wrong and how illogically and unreasonably they behaved, concluding with something like, \u201cI have a right to be upset when my [daughter, mother-in-law, ex-husband, boss, or whomever you\u2019re thinking of] speaks to me that way!\u201d But if you\u2019re interested in living a Tao-filled life, it\u2019s imperative that you reverse this kind of thinking.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Resentments don\u2019t come from the conduct of the other party in an altercation\u2014no, they survive and thrive because you\u2019re unwilling to end that altercation with an offering of kindness, love, and authentic forgiveness. Lao-tzu says, \u201cSomeone must risk returning injury with kindness, or hostility will never turn to goodwill.\u201d So when all of the yelling, screaming, and threatening words have been expressed, the time for calm has arrived. Remember that no storm lasts forever, and that hidden within are always seeds of tranquility. There is a time for hostility and a time for peace.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

As the storm of a quarrel subsides, you must find a way to disregard your ego\u2019s need to be right. It\u2019s time to extend kindness by letting go of your anger. It\u2019s over, so offer forgiveness to yourself and the other person and encourage resentment to dissipate. Be the one seeking a way to give, rather than the one looking for something to get.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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Regardless of what others around you are doing, if you live with \u201ctrue virtue,\u201d you\u2019ll seek a way to give. This truth completely aligns with the Tao; after all, the creator of life is always giving, never taking. So change the way you think about scarcity and resentment, and begin to truly feel the question How may I serve? The universe will seem to respond, Finally, you got it\u2014you\u2019re acting like me! I\u2019ll keep that flow coming into your life in ways that will astound and delight you. As Lao-tzu says, \u201cTo the giver comes the fullness of life; to the taker, just an empty hand.\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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Here are some ways to make the wisdom of the 79th verse your reality:<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Picture yourself at the termination of a quarrel or major dispute. Rather than reacting with old patterns of residual anger, revenge, and hurt, visualize offering kindness, love, and forgiveness. Do this right now by sending out these \u201ctrue virtue\u201d thoughts to any resentments you\u2019re currently carrying. Make this your standard response to any future altercations: I end on love, no matter what!<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

2. In the midst of arguments or disagreements, practice giving rather than taking before you exit the fracas. Offer the Tao treasures or real virtues by presenting kindness rather than a put-down, or a sign of respect instead of proving someone wrong. Giving involves leaving the ego behind. While it wants to win and show its superiority by being contrary and disrespectful, your Tao nature wants to be at peace and live in harmony. You can reduce your quarreling time to almost zero if you practice this procedure.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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3. Silently recite the following words from the Prayer of Saint Francis: \u201cWhere there is injury, [let me bring] pardon.\u201d Be a giver of forgiveness as he teaches: Bring love to hate, light to darkness, and pardon to injury. Read these words daily, for they\u2019ll help you overcome your ego\u2019s demands and know \u201cthe fullness of life.\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n


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Love & Light,
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The 79th verse of the Tao Te Ching, which has been especially helpful to me personally, can be called \u201cLiving Without Resentment.\u201d We\u2019re asked to change the way we hold resentments following a difference of opinion or an outright quarrel. Now what causes annoyance and anger after a dispute? The generic response would be a laundry list that detailed why the other person was wrong and how illogically and unreasonably they behaved…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[28,10],"tags":[2676,284,3164,3166,3167,2496,2119,2391,2110,32,3165,3163,2482],"class_list":["post-33506","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-health","category-life","tag-angel-love","tag-anger","tag-annoyance","tag-arguments","tag-disagreements","tag-ego","tag-forgiveness","tag-kindness","tag-light","tag-love","tag-quarrel","tag-resentment","tag-tao"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33506","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=33506"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33506\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=33506"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=33506"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=33506"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}