{"id":51391,"date":"2011-07-14T13:23:24","date_gmt":"2011-07-14T17:23:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/51391\/opinions-assumptions-stuff\/"},"modified":"2011-07-14T13:23:24","modified_gmt":"2011-07-14T17:23:24","slug":"opinions-assumptions-stuff","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/friendburst.com\/blog-new\/51391\/opinions-assumptions-stuff\/","title":{"rendered":"OPINIONS, ASSUMPTIONS AND STUFF"},"content":{"rendered":"

I received email from a Friendburst friend: <\/font> <\/em><\/font><\/strong>
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“Are you doing alright? I have tried several times to send you a message on Friendburst but can’t get through. Just wondering how you are and wanted to say hi. ”
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I responded.\u00a0 After I sent the email, I decided that I would satisfy the curiosity of anyone else who might miss me.\u00a0 (HA!\u00a0 Like I think anybody else misses me…)\u00a0 My response email follows:<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/font><\/p>\n

I’m pretty much done with friendburst. I have grown weary of reading a blog, then reading comments (often, not always) and find people commenting on the blogger or another blogger and not JUST on the blog. I am weary of the predictable arguments between the predictable people. I hate that a person cannot have an opinion that opposes the masses without other people taking a minute to consider. I think I said it best in an email to another friend. I will share here without mentioning the other friend, who, BTW, also left friendburst. Ever notice how many people came and left?<\/span><\/em><\/font><\/p>\n

So…here’s the letter…not the whole letter, but the part that is pertinent:<\/span><\/em><\/font><\/strong><\/p>\n

“<\/span><\/em>I have been taking long breaks from friendburst practically since I joined, but every time I peek in there, it is the same old people with same old arguments. Also, they don’t care a flip about what they say out in the open. I caught snarky comments a few days ago about “people who watched the whole Anthony trial” (which I said last week). And they think that if people have the time to watch the whole trial then they have time to go feed the hungry. WTH??? It pissed me off big time. But, I slipped on around them in the shadows and said not one word on friendburst that day”<\/span><\/em><\/font><\/p>\n

Then my friend replied with this, again only pertinent comments are shared: <\/span><\/em><\/font><\/p>\n

“<\/span><\/em>I think I belong to the snarky comment people about Ms Anthony, because I tend to side with justice.”<\/span><\/em><\/font><\/p>\n

So, I wrote back: “<\/span><\/em>I know how it looks from the outside, but bear with me for a minute while I explain why the outrage in Orlando. We have lived with this case for 3 years. Because of the Florida Public Records law, we have been able to see every document, arrest warrant, search warrants, depositions, etc. In short…every legal document. We here in Orlando have watched the family like they were under a microscope. By virtue of the media, we have all even been in their home. When people picketed their family home, we got to see George loose it when people were asking what Casey did with Caylee. This jury thinks George did something. Well, I would disagree. And not because I like them because the truth is that I don’t like any of them judging on what I have seen, but I did learn their characters by their actions. Cindy (the mother) is a lying, conniving, controlling bitch. George is the one who keeps quiet for peace in the family. He is a “Yes Dear” kind of man. He also has a big heart for his family. His love for his family and especially little Caylee has been so evident. He didn’t kill anyone. The brother Lee tried to help the police, then he managed to find his way out of the whole mess after Caylee’s remains were found. They are clearly a dysfunctional family, but in all their dysfunction, there was an unmistakable love for one another in that family and Caylee was the light of their lives. I don’t think there is a single person who has kept up with the case who does not think we have a gross miscarriage of justice. <\/span><\/em> <\/span><\/em><\/font><\/p>\n

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<\/em>Now, let’s look at the jury. The trial was weeks long and the jury deliberated less than 11 hours over an incredible amount of evidence presented by prosecution. The defense was the Jose Baez Show. We’ve all seen it for 3 long years and I can tell you that people here HATE Baez. Again, one would have to know the history over past 3 years. Back to the jury… They did not ask to see even one single piece of evidence. They did not ask for any clarification nor did they ask any questions. So far 3 jurors have stepped up to explain their side, but the reasons they give for their decision are pitiful and lacking in common sense. They are hated all over Central Florida and one juror has already left the state. She did not return to her job. She took her juror check and hit the road.<\/span><\/em> <\/span><\/em><\/font><\/p>\n

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<\/em>Finally, I just want to say that the pain in this community has been horrendous for 3 years. Things that never came up in trial are well known facts here. Until the pretrial hearings, I was not aware that the defense could file motions in the courts to keep evidence out of the trial. What was not mentioned at trial is that during the 31 days her child was missing, she completely hid from her family. That stinky car was in her possession every day until she abandoned it at Amscot. Her family tried and tried to find her, while she spoke with her Mother often, lying to her about where she was and what she was doing and why she couldn’t come home. (Reasons were unbelievable!) During the 31 days, she stole her best friend’s checkbook and wrote bad checks all over Orlando and Winter Garden. She was charged and convicted of 6 felonies while she was in jail. Another case is pending for defamation of character because she used an actual person’s name for the Zanny the Nanny. It’s a rather long story about how Casey got her name, but the short version is that the real Zanida Gonzalez looked at an apt at the (now famous) Sawgrass Apt, filled out an application and left it with a friend of Casey’s while Casey was visiting the friend. Also, she stole money from her Grandmother’s account and, according to her mother, 100 of her mother’s checks over the 2 years that she was, supposedly, working to support herself and her daughter. <\/span><\/em>(What I didn’t mention here that I should have is that the real Zanita Gonzalez lost her job and subsequently her home.\u00a0 She applied for numerous jobs, however, could not get one.\u00a0 Her name was tarnished to her detriment.)<\/font><\/strong><\/span><\/em><\/font><\/p>\n

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<\/em>So, I didn’t mean for this to get this long, but I am still very tore up about how it went. When I commented on a couple of blogs in Friendburst, I wasn’t arguing. I was presenting another side by virtue of the facts as are known in our community. I respected their opinions, only presented my view. For that, I return later to see a demeaning comment about a person who watched the entire trial and who should feed the hungry??? What? Why the assumption that I am not a charitable person??? So, I left without a word. NO argument. NO mud slinging. NO attempt to force someone else see my point of view. <\/span><\/em> <\/span><\/em><\/font><\/p>\n

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<\/em>Same goes here. I respect your opinion. I am only offering another point of view. NO attempt to change your mind. NO mudslinging. Only another side as seen by myself and a whole city of brokenhearted people. And, I can explain myself with NO sly comments that possibly speak to your character. <\/span><\/em>“<\/span><\/em><\/font><\/p>\n

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Then my friend wrote back this: “<\/strong><\/font><\/span><\/em><\/font>I see what you mean Darlene.<\/span><\/em>“<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/font><\/p>\n

There was more, but I think I have made my point without including my friend’s personal correspondence to me. Is it so hard to listen to another person and consider just for a minute before taking a hard stand against that person’s opinion? Then, can one refrain from further comment about “someone who has time to watch the whole trial” on yet another blog and suggest that person should do something useful like feed the hungry. A comment like that is a slur to my character. I will not justify myself except to say that no one on friendburst has any idea of my volunteer work, nor contributions to a couple of charities close to my heart. NO IDEA! And that is where I will leave it.<\/span><\/em><\/font><\/p>\n

NO…I changed my mind. I won’t leave it there. I just want to ask how many of the critics have gone into a homeless shelter, purchased and delivered needed items to them ~ or~ served them as they line up for a meager meal. How many of them spent HOURS in her own kitchen so that the homeless in same shelter could have a holiday bag of home baked sweets, only to learn later that some have teeth so rotten that they could not eat sweets. How many of the critics have counseled homeless, fresh off the streets in a group home, one on one, about substance abuse issues and gave them the tools and a helping hand to get out of their situation. How many critics have worked with homeless with substance abuse problems, without a word about their stench? How many people actually know the stench that I speak of? Finally, how many critics have given a homeless person money, a kind word and a hug? How many have counseled the spouses of an individual who is war-torn by their spouse in addiction? HOW DARE ANYBODY SUGGEST THAT SOMEONE SAT ON THEIR SOFA AND WATCH A WHOLE TRIAL WITHOUT AN OUNCE OF CHARITY IN HER HEART. HOW DARE THEY???<\/span><\/em><\/font><\/p>\n

Friendburst? Really??? They should have named it “Friendphuck”.<\/span><\/em><\/font><\/p>\n


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