Love is magical and always a mystery
Falling in love is easy, staying in love is very hard.
At one time in our life we meet a person who makes our head spin and we savor every moment we spend with that person, but what if the person you fall in love with doesn’t feel the same, or they fall in love with you and you don’t feel the same way, either way you must accept it and move on with your life, maybe even find someone else. If you truly love that person be grateful that they are or were a part of your life.
My way of thinking is when you meet someone new you are either attracted to them physically or mental, you just seem to know or you imagine that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
When the bond between both people is connected it can be the best feeling you will ever have in your life, and that’s where the mystery comes in. after a period of time both people get adjusted to each other and they are more at ease with their own feelings, and many are convinced that this person is their true soul mate until the end of the time.
Staying in love takes a lot of hard work by both people and when one partner begins to take the other for granted, problems can and often do arrive.
As time passes, maybe years the magic of their love in the beginning has all but vanished and they start finding ways to blame the other because things are no longer the same, it often ends in separation or by desperation they stay together for fear of being alone. some have children together and stay together just for the sake of keeping the family in tact.
The problem in many relationship is failure to communicate with each other because many have grown tired of the other complaining all the time and it seems that most complaints are about living conditions such as short on money or one of them never wants to do anything but stay home and become a recluse, meantime the other has not lost their ambition to enjoy their life and would like to go out even every once in a while, and the partner say I don’t feel like it. so what do you do?
Most people just tolerate it and become adjusted to it and accept it, and live their own lives in misery and some even look for escape routes like finding someone else to fill the void in their life.
Having had some experience with these things the only thing I have concluded is that if we want to be happy for the rest of lives with the person we have chosen for a mate we must work at it and make sure the magic in our relationship never leaves.
I am no expert on the subject of love or anything else for that matter, but I do know I want to stay happy and even it means being alone I will do it.
So what is the ultimate answer?
Very simple, talk to each other and try to spend more time together, if that doesn’t work move on with your own life. YOU DESERVE IT !
When you are lucky enough to find your soulmate, treat them like they are best thing on the planet. True love is a gift and maybe the best you will ever receive.
Old Hippie Jim
Yes, you have hit the nail on the head hee Jim. I feel, communication is the most important thing in ANY relationship. When communication breaks down, so does the relationship, and it does not just apply to love. Friendship can hurt as much when it gets into trouble because of one of the other being unable to get across wheir feelings. In my view, one can be hurt just as much by a friend as by a lover.
A wonderful look into how your think Jim. Well done!
Thank You so much for the kinds and your own insight about friends too.
There is so much truth in this write. To communicate openly is an essential ingredient to happiness.
Jim this was wonderful to read and yes I have been there before. I have also learned a lot over these years. You words are of wisdom. They truly speak volumes to those who seek something true and real in this lifetime. To have someone in your life that you love…is truly the greatest gift anyone can ask for.
Many Hugs for this write 🙂
it can seem so simple but at my age it has not gotten easier. what is so easy about communicating when it is so full of devices and manipulation. these are things i dont put myself above and yet i don’t like it either, i am just a product of my life experiences. some like to call it baggage, i hope to think of it as character and try to pick out and develop the good parts of it yet the not so good parts still hang on and persist. as we all know, being bad is so much easier than being good…
i have had so many lovers since my divorce and all have been a delicate dance between honesty and lies or at least of hidden truths. i don’t know if i can even show any man my truthful self. it is buried deep in the protections i wove around myself from black eyes and men who wanted to use me. or did they use me or me them?
lol!! never mind, there is always hope isnt there? there are many truths here in your write that don’t take into account people like me who are a puzzle of honesty, lies, hidden truths and a lifetime of compromise. no black and white with me….just a touch of gray!
How true my friend. Falling in love and staying in love are two completely different things.
I would have to say to keep a good one around, then try and assume the best about them. Who doesn’t want to be on the positive end of regard?
There are some great and positive replies, Thank You All
So very very true…communication is vital…and don’t go to bed mad at each other….
True love is a gift and maybe the best you will ever receive.True nuff my friend,true nuff…
D.
I am so happy to see someone with a level head and the knowledge of what it takes to complete a relationship and have it grow each day. Wise words. Very very good write. Thank you.