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Becoming Whole Again

The Process of Grieving

When we experience any kind of devastating loss,

whether it is the loss of a loved one, a dream, or a

relationship, feelings may arise within us that are

overwhelming or difficult to cope with. This sense

of grief can also come up when we are separated

from anyone or anything we have welcomed into

our lives. And while it may feel like we are caught up

in a never-ending spiral of sadness and emptiness,

it is important to remember that the grief we are

feeling is not a permanent state of being. Rather, grief

is part of the process of letting go that in many ways can

be a gift, allowing us to go deeper within ourselves to

rediscover the light amidst the seeming darkness.

The emotions that accompany any kind of loss can be

intense and varied. A sense of shock or denial is often

the first reaction, to be replaced by anger. Sometimes

this anger can be directed at your loved one for

“abandoning” you; at other times you may feel outrage

toward the universe for what you are enduring.

And while there are stages of grief that people go through

– moving from denial to anger to bargaining to depression

to acceptance – the cycles of grief often move in spirals,

sometimes circling forward and then back again.

You may even experience moments of strength, faith,

and laughter in between. While these emotions seem

to come and go sporadically, it is important to feel them,

accept them, and allow them to flow. With time, patience,

and compassion, you will eventually find your center again.

As we move through our grief, we may find ourselves

reluctant to release our pain, fearing we are letting go

of who or what we have lost. We may even regard our

movement toward healing as an act of disloyalty or

giving up. Know that while the hurt may fade,

the essence of what you had and who you loved

will have already transformed you and forever stay

with you. If anything, once you are ready for the pain

of your loss to subside, their memories can then live

more fully within you. Remember, that healing is a

part of the spiraling cycles of grief, and that in letting

yourself feel restored again, you are surrendering to a

natural movement that is part of the dance of life.

Love & Light,
♥Angel Love♥