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1. The Principle of “Letting Whatever Happens Be Okay” – The amount a person suffers in their life is directly related to how much they are resisting the fact that “things are the way they are.” If there is suffering or discomfort, there is resistance. Addictions or attachments to things being different than they are need to be upgraded to preferences, so when “what is” is not what you want it to be, you do not suffer over it and your happiness and peace are therefore not controlled by forces outside of your control.

Feeling undeserving of good things usually stems from a lack of self-esteem which may be traced back to childhood. Dysfunctional families, lack of support from teachers or guardians and lack of acceptance from peers are common culprits of poor self-esteem.

The danger of such negative childhood experiences is that children may carry their trauma thru their adult life. The trauma may have a destructive impact on their thought patterns and relationships, among other things. Because feelings of low self-worth are brought on by trauma, they may consciously or unconsciously believe that they do not deserve the good things that can come to them.

The best-selling book, The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz is an insightful little book with a message that is simple and yet profound. The author invites the reader to adopt a code of conduct that leads to a fulfilling life. It includes these four agreements – “Be impeccable With Your Word, “Don’t Take Anything Personally, Never Assume Anything, and Always Do Your Best”.