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Feeling undeserving of good things usually stems from a lack of self-esteem which may be traced back to childhood. Dysfunctional families, lack of support from teachers or guardians and lack of acceptance from peers are common culprits of poor self-esteem.

The danger of such negative childhood experiences is that children may carry their trauma thru their adult life. The trauma may have a destructive impact on their thought patterns and relationships, among other things. Because feelings of low self-worth are brought on by trauma, they may consciously or unconsciously believe that they do not deserve the good things that can come to them.

As we go through life things happen to us to get us off course. Things that make us wonder about the true benevolence, kindness and love of life and the universe.

True self-love unlocks the power to love others.

We have all heard it countless times before: “To experience true love, we first must love ourselves,” or some such variation. However it is stated, the importance of self-love is vital to becoming a healthy, whole human being. We are all children of the universe, created out of love. We accept and love other people, animals, nature . . . all that comes from the same source we do. We too, then, are worthy of our own love. To honor oneself with caring and acceptance is to honor the universe that created us.

1. MEDITATE Meditation helps you to slow down and look within. Take a few minutes each day and focus on your breath. Feel yourself breathing in and out. If thoughts come into your mind just release them with your breath as you breathe out. This is a great tool for learning to be present and a great way to discover the things that are bothering you so you can release them. As things come up, just let them go as you breathe out. As you think of things you need to do just let those go as well. Meditation is your “me” time… that little space during the day that is just for you.

1. Happiness. Meditation can help us to cultivate a real abiding happiness. Meditation allows us to be in tune with our inner self. When we live in the heart we can experience a sense of oneness with others, this brings a happiness that does not depend upon outer events.